AVOIDING THE OOPS (Or the verbal faux pas)


Speaking from examples in my little (im)perfect world, I find that sometimes people, when answering a question, would try to, need to, or want to, “rehearse” a response for various reasons. This prevents some “Oops” in dating or other social activities.

One reason to rehearse a response is to answer the questions with clarity and truthfulness. Maybe no one has actually asked them the question or they never thought about the subject or got that deep into it. So they are lost. “Babbling” is a way to get though the forest of competing or tangent ideas. In other words, they think, “What is the best response to this question?” And avoid the “Oops”.

Other times, people would need time to formulate a response. Maybe they are concerned their first thought, put into words, could be misinterpreted as an insult, or otherwise not come across what they actually mean. Another instance of “Avoiding the Oops”.

So I usually give time for the other person to completely answer the question, if that is what they want to do.

But even if there is question to be answered, I sometimes like to listen to the person, esp. if I am on a date. That person is giving me a gift of his or her time and sharing part of who they are. And what that person says, allows me the opportunity to create or modify any future dates or what may happen in the future. So I would not take someone to a water park if they have a fear of water. I also would not give a Harvey’s Steak House gift certificate to a vegetarian or a classical music CD to someone who only likes Country Western.

This sound obvious, but I had a friend who was absolutely clueless in this regard. He took his GF to out to a both a MLB (Major League Baseball) game and an NFL (National Football League) game. But his GF didn’t like sports. (Oops!)

Seriously, I do like to listen to people. What they say can really be awesome; if one is willing to listen.

2 thoughts on “AVOIDING THE OOPS (Or the verbal faux pas)

  1. ITA (I totally agree!) This is why it’s often more interesting and enlightening to ramble on as the ideas flow, and listen to others do the same, rather than barking out questions and answers in rapid-fire.

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